Dear Lin: I think I may have to leave my job temporarily to
provide full-time care Answer - learn about the Family Medical
Leave Act (FMLA). FMLA provides job protection for employees
who must leave their jobs for family medical concerns, such
as providing care for a critically ill family member.
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Dear Lin: My Mom is starting to have problems chewing should
I start feeding her baby food? Answer: Baby food is kind of
bland, it's a good choice in a pinch. However, you can just
feed them whatever you are eating or whatever they are used
to eating by running it through the blender. There are also
food grinders made for babies that are portable and you
can even bring them with you to a restaurant.
Dear Lin: My husband is incontinent, should I use diapers
and those plastic disposable bed pads? Answer: If you are using the plastic diapers
and not the disposable briefs and the plastic bed pads underneath
to protect the bed - you might find that your husband will
start to get rashes and other skin breakdown sooner. I would
recommend that you use the reusable bed pads that are a
mixture of cloth and some sort of water resistant material.
The cloth breaths a lot better and therefor not as much
heat will be drawn to the area and then moisture won't get
trapped as easily.
Dear Lin:
My wife will suddenly become angry about something that
happened twenty years ago as though it were today. I can't
convince her that it was resolved long ago it just exacerbates
the argument, what do I do? Answer: Well, listening without reacting
is your first line of defense and your wife will feel validated,
secondly don't take it personally. After listening patiently
shift their focus, direct them to something that happened
earlier that day, someone you saw, something on TV. You'll
be surprised at how easily you can shift someone's focus
no matter the age or whether they suffer from memory loss
or not.